No. It's not denying reality, the people most likely to get uppity and angry about the terms 'slut' and 'whore' being used pejoratively are women, they raise the most complaints and cause the most clamour about this, it's well documented on practically every board and forum around.
I suppose it comes down to a choice. You *can* be a whore, that's fine, but you cannot expect respect because of your choice, you cannot justify your filthy behaviour because of some new age paperback pseudo-philosophy book you read on a bus once. Effectively, the moment you decide to become a whore, you trade in your self-esteem and dignity. And you won't get them back. And this goes for every developed society on earth, and every developed historical society (lol, just read what Confucius or Zeno had to say about your kind).
Those that have self-control have EARNT their respect and dignity, you cannot have what they have because you lack it. So dont complain.