You SOB you posted this in /v/ too. Well, my response is the same: No, because I never loved her in the first place.
I don't want a fucking mirror image of myself that features opposite sex organs. To have a person with the same general interests would be nice in a fleeting way, but unfortunately such a relationship would be very poor. A lot about relationships, to me, is about expanding and finding new things about each other- not needless me-too-ism. Trust me, I like the stuff I like enough.
To put it in other terms, of what value is she if she's my mirror? I don't like cooking, but I'd love a girl who could cook (so I stop having to cook every fucking day). I'd love a girl who was from places I'd never been, with experiences I'd never experienced. Not necessarily my antithesis- just someone who was DIFFERENT than me. In that way, we'd at least have something to talk about.
So far as the child? No. From personal experience, girls with children are different- if only because they have a strong link with the original father. I don't sit well with the idea of a girl who has had sex a lot before, let alone a girl who's popped out a kid. Children complicate manners- even by dating her, you play more of a "father figure" than a "dating figure". Girls tend to prey on "responsible" figures and attempt to bribe them with sex- essentially to fill their own shitty lives.
I know I'm ranting, but I just turned down two girls this week who had kids. I do not do kids. I'm 19 years old- and though I may appear solid, though I have a nice pad with nice furniture and nice technology and nice clothes- I do not aspire to be the fucking teat to some girl who got knocked up at 16.
Looks are ephemeral. Ideas are ephemeral. The only thing that matters to me is that fundamentally, we are irreducibly connected in a good way. Not if she fulfills some fucking checklist of "what I like versus what she likes".