There are sites. As bad as ED and Lurkmoar are, it's better than coming in here completely blind. Also, there are ways to be more subtle to request sauce. When I was a newfag, I used the information I had to capture at least a name from the a series before making use of almighty google. Beyond that, just watch and read.
We all have our pathetic moments (a joke /r/ in /b/ earned me a fucking article in memorial to my failure), but complaining about circle-jerking is in bad taste.