The only time it's really mind-smashing is when the woman in question actually is willing to work for it to be so, and knows what she's doing. Lots of women pretend they know what they're doing, but they don't, and it really shows.
Plus you have to know how to control your own functions during sex. Most guys just don't know how to keep the stress low so you last longer, because it feels better after working up to it. Just going off naturally is a complete waste of time and effort after finally getting a chick to spread them.
But then, lots of girls have no fucking rhythm, so they'll end up screwing up your own pleasure for their own.