and there was the fighting. not the silly magic fighting i talked about earlier, but real fighting. screaming fights. slapping. punching. the sound of flesh beating on flesh is not one you can miss. when i was 10 my parents went through a very rough divorce- i know these sounds and they were bringing up really bad memories and bad feelings. and the apartment was small, so there was no way not to hear them. hearing one of them wince or wimper, then the beating...and immediately after, the noisy sex.