For pure mindfucking, it's gotta be Kon for me. I watched Perfect Blue a few weeks ago, and forgot how seriously confusing/delusional it was. Same with Paranoia Agent.
I like ABe's art style more though, Lain is trippy and kind of inspiring, and Texhnolyze has got a hard boiled style that I dig. Haibane Renmei looks beautiful too.
I happen to like two in OP's ABe list more, but that's probably because of the scifi/futurism themes. I'd respect Satoshi Kon just as much.