My problem is that I had it figured out when I was 17, without even knowing it. I charmed a girl I'd just met, we hung out for a few days and within a week we were officially a couple. We were together for a year, though it was long distance (which meant we never got very physical - and since she was 15, this was just as well), but our feelings were pretty clearly expressed. Honestly, I thought I'd marry the girl. Then she broke my heart and left me then day before I started college. That was a setback it took me a long time to get past, by which time, I'd put on over 50 lbs. (though that was partly the college diet's fault) and kind of wasted a lot of years. At this point I'm trying to get back into it, but I'm 29 now and unemployed, so it's tough.>The fact of the matter is those feelings are irrational and you need to work through them.
Absolutely. I wish I'd figured that out when I was about 20, as there were girls I would have gone after. No point dwelling on it now, though, I suppose.