did you not see where i said "if none of those things even apply to you then it's all in your head."? i fully realize that it could be he's just bad with women. that's a whole other can of worms, one that would require months, maybe years of retraining to overcome. confidence with women doesn't come overnight. i started dating at 14 and it wasn't till i was 19 that i actually felt real confidence around girls. if he doesn't have it, the first thing he needs to do is admit that and then begin the process of slowly socializing with people of the opposite sex in a friendly nonsexual way. once he can do that he can move on to bigger things. as i said, dating friends of friends is generally the easiest way to go since it allows for low pressure situations that if they go nowhere romantically can still result in good friendships.>>11842778
worse. i'm from texas.>>11842782
see my other post >>11842782
. i would consider all those things "play[ing your] cards right". it's all about realizing what you're doing wrong (because if you're 32 and a virgin, i don't wanna be mean, but you're doing it wrong) and then fixing it. you don't have to change your personality or who you are, but you do gotta change things that turn women off if you want to have a girlfriend.